Clean your ring so that it’s extra sparkly for your photographer to capture on your wedding day.
Clear or postpone your to-do list at work or elsewhere so that you can focus all of your attention on wedding planning and any last-minute details or changes.
Get your bags ready for your honeymoon and confirm your arrangements. Don’t forget your passport!
Read your vows out loud. Now is the time to nail down the wording, tone and inflection. Read it over and over until it’s perfected.
If you’re planning a before or after breakfast, brunch, lunch or dinner with some guests, now is a good time to make that reservation, especially if it’s for a larger table.
EXTRA Tip: Rent a UHAUL. You may not be thinking about “after” your wedding, but there are some details to cover — where will your florals go? Where does all the extra food go? Your guests’ gifts and all the other items to take away from the venue. Renting a UHAUL and designating a sober driver to take these items back home will save you a lot of stress after all the fun and dancing is over for the night. Typically, your wedding planner will also help you with this.
Wine Country Tip: you’re getting married in wine country! Consider setting up a tasting event or tour for some select guests.
The Night Before & On the Day of Your Wedding
The Night Before Your Wedding
Pack a purse or small bag with your personal items
Eat a meal that won’t cause you to get sick or bloated. We recommend a vegan meal. Drink a couple of liters of water with this meal or before bed to prevent any bloating and to help your stomach settle.
Pack a clutch or small bag of personal items
Drink even more water. Actually, always drink tons of water.
Try to sleep 8-10 hours. If you’re having trouble falling asleep because of nervousness and excitement, try having some hot tea (no caffeine) or a very, very small amount of Melatonin (3mg or less).
Get your car prepped with any boxes, suitcases, bags or even survival kits to bring to the ceremony and reception
The Morning Of Your Wedding
Stay off your feet as much as possible. You’ll be on your feet all afternoon and evening, so save some energy.
Eat a healthy breakfast that contains minimum salt to avoid any bloating.
Reminder: drink your water!
Take your dress out and get it hung and steamed to remove any wrinkles or imperfections
Lay out all the items (such as your shoes, rings, invitations and other details) that you want your photographer to capture
Be gracious, kind and thankful to everyone around you. It can be a stressful day, but remember to be present and positive.
Enjoy everything, it’s your special day.
After Your Wedding
Write “Thank You” notes.
We recommend that you start writing notes as soon as you receive gifts, or even create a spreadsheet to help you stay organized. Handwritten notes are a nice touch and get specific with your note — let the gift giver know what you plan to do with their gift. This makes your note more sweet and sincere.
Your photographer may send you a batch of photos to choose your favorites from. Otherwise, they’ll select their top favorites on your own.
Return duplicate or unneeded registry gifts
Make sure to do this as soon as you can or assign someone to help you with this task.
Update your marital status/last name (if you change it) to the following:
IRS, you and your spouse’s employers, your insurance companies, credit card companies, any loan or mortgage providers, the Passport office, your primary care or doctors’ offices, the Passport office, Social Security office, Voter Registration and the Post Office. If you’re into social media, you can update it on Facebook as well.
Get written confirmation that all of your weddingvendors have been paid
They may have already provided this since you paid them in full before the wedding, but if they haven’t, be sure to get an invoice or receipt for your records.
A lot happened on your wedding day. You may have stains or dirt on your wedding dress that you didn’t notice. We recommend sending your dress to a professional cleaner or wedding gown preserver to clean and preserve your wedding gown. You never know if you’ll want to pass down your wedding dress to someone else eventually.
John Alden is a Wine Country Wedding expert and the owner of Mountain House Estate, a Northern California wedding venue located near Cloverdale, Sonoma County. Over the past 5 years, John has tirelessly worked to keep the property in pristine condition and has unmatched expertise about wine country weddings. In his free time, he enjoys working on classic cars in his garage.